After posting the article Tips On Teaching Household Economics To Your Children, I received some phenomenal feedback from readers. Some of the best comments came from the awesome *Thrive Tribe* started and headed by Dr. Monikah Ogando. This group consists of entrepreneurial leaders who are constantly looking for ways to grow their efforts and help others to do the same. One of my fellow Thrivers, shout out to Ms. Dawn, mentioned the importance of parents grooming children in the proper “mindset” and “allowing their children to dream and take risks.” Of course, she mentioned many other great nuggets…all in due time. But, in reflecting upon many of my interviews with these phenomenal millionaires (and billionaires), developing their children’s minds and encouraging them to take risks, were significant aspects of their own upbringings, as well as the way they raised their children. Let’s explore some of the ways this was done.
One of the biggest and most consistent themes I noticed in my conversations with these economic and business giants is that their parents (and they as parents) prioritized cultivating the proper environments in which their children were developed. A major part of these enriching environments consisted of television regulation, and in some cases, no television. Now, in today’s world where the various networks and streaming services come up with several intriguing new shows every season, this is extremely difficult. It’s hard for adults to limit television intake, let alone limiting that of their children. But, when I posed a question that had anything to do with entertainment and daily activities, all of the millionaires said the same thing! They either had very strict television allowances or none worth mentioning. Corporate giant Keith Wyche (check out his bio at http://www.keithwyche.com) said he and his sisters were only allowed 30 minutes of television each week! The rest of their time had to be spent on activities that encouraged brain growth versus “dumbing down;” activities like reading, writing, physical activity…etc. That may be a hard one, I know. But, one way my husband and I tackle this particular issue is with no television throughout the school week; and on the weekends, they get to watch television or play video games one hour for every hour they read. So, if they know that Teen Titans (or whatever) is going to run for an hour, they get their prerequisite hour in before it comes on. Most of the time, they choose their own reading materials, with the understanding that there are some books we simply require them to read.
Way 2: The Grooming Trifecta
When I was talking with Bill Patterson, the father of author and wealth & business coach William R. Patterson from http://www.baronseries.com, he said that there were three requirements he and his wife placed upon their children. They were: to learn a foreign language, to play an instrument, and to play a sport. They further required them to do these to the point of mastery. Each of the three areas of The Grooming Trifecta (yes, it’s my phrase and I’m coining it!) is rich in the ways they add to a child’s development. We’ll discuss them further in a future article. But, let’s just say that they all expand a child’s perspective and deepen his/her thought patterns far beyond that of those who don’t experience any of these activities.
Way 3: Fail Often & Fail Fast
As adults, we always learn something (several things) in adulthood that make us think, “if only I’d learned that as a child!… Man!” Well, for me, the lesson of failing often and failing fast is that lesson. Many of us grow up to become timid and afraid to try the desires of our hearts, because we don’t want to fail and look stupid. Additionally, so very many of us tragically never allow ourselves to even dream of things that are beyond what meets the eye. The crazy thing is, none of us were born that way! Something happened between childhood and adulthood perhaps even between childhood and adolescence that caused us to abandon our natural inclinations towards exploration and bounce-back. Millionaires recognize this and create environments that support their children’s inclination towards endeavor, no matter how aloof or far-fetched it seems to the parents. They encourage their children to seek the necessary resources to accomplish their goals and pursue them without judgment or limitation. In the words of Bill Patterson to his children, “Don’t let anyone tell you what you can’t do. Even if that somebody is me.”
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Thiah Veona Muhammad is an entrepreneur and author of the audio book series How To Raise Your Black Child To Be A Millionaire. She’s a wife, mother, daughter, and sister whose goal is to empower poor and middle class parents with the child rearing strategies of the wealthy that will raise upcoming generations to usher in and perpetuate intergenerational wealth and interdependence among Black people in America and all over the world.